One of the lowest creatures known to man is the random girl who tries to maintain contact with a guy who is in a committed long-term relationship. Since there seem to be many of those girls with no self-respect at all out there, I thought it might be right to say a couple of words, not only in my name, as I have learned from many conversations with friends over the years.
Let’s start this off by saying a couple of good things about you, shall we? You know who you are.
The good thing about you is that you’re usually not too attractive, at least I haven’t come across any pretty version of such a pathetic creature ever – because a pretty girl would never seek for the attention of somebody who should be focussing all of his attention on the person that he has picked voluntarily. Another thing I love about you is that you’re never more educated or successful in any discipline that could be relevant, which is especially pleasant on days when I think about not being accomplished enough. I don’t compare myself to other people too often, but I have to admit that these, alongside with a couple of other of your favorable features, make me feel a little bit better about myself and I’d like to thank you for that.
When I think about it, there’s almost more good things to this pathetic species than bad ones, but still let’s see what we can come up with…
Of course it can cause unnecessary tensions in a relationship and thus a couple of days or moments that could have been spent differently, it can lead to trust issues and disappointment, with some of it probably for no real reason. Do you really want to have something to do with such negative energy? Doesn’t it make you feel like trash? Because it should – just try and see yourself in that situation, even if clearly you don’t seem to be desirable enough, how would you feel?
We all know how easy the internet and smartphones make it to stay in contact with people all over the world for seemingly no reason at all, but honestly, if you’re not seeing somebody in person on a regular basis because of some mutual social checkpoint, why would you want to maintain a Whatsapp-relationship? Be honest, what’s the benefit? Or…what’s the hidden agenda? Honestly, doesn’t it make you feel shabby? Because if you haven’t been a close friend of his for a very long time, you really shouldn’t be trying to creep whatever bond you’re thinking that you have between the two of you.
Yes, I know, sometimes it’s him who does the first step, so that relationship is doomed already anyway, but still: Girls with a tiny spark of decency will know that this is where you just don’t go into it. You just don’t. You screenshot his sad attempt and send it to your group chat with your girls and spend an hour on pitying her and insulting him and his inexistent manhood, that’s what you do.
Now I’m really not team clingy or possessive when it comes to relationships – with a certain level of trust and respect it shouldn’t be no problem at all for both sides of a relationship to have contact with other people, no matter how attractive or not. I believe in friendship between man and woman and I really think it can be great for a relationship if one or both partners have really good friends of the other sex. In the end, if somebody choses something else over you, it’s not big of a loss, it’s just better for it to happen earlier than later, so it’s really not a fear of loss that annoys the F out of me. Know what you bring to the table and all that. It’s rather the incredulity about the existence of people so low, so desperate to maintain relationships that aren’t fruitful friendships but god knows what and the lack of a possibility to give them my Oh wow, look at you look. – But I’m glad that I could make up for it on here.
Don’t be that low, trust me.