Monthly Archives: January 2017

Meat

It’s always hard for me to decide whether or not to cover things when they might be associated with political views which I don’t have or don’t want to debate – I know how the internet is: Especially people who haven’t been following you for a while and happen to take their first glance ever on your blabla, tend to pick up the wrong points from your texts, making it about something it is not. So for the next couple of sentences, please keep in mind: this is not an indication of my political believes or opinion, this is not a confession, nothing – it has nothing to do with politics, politics was just a trigger.

Two or three days ago, I saw one of my fav bloggers from Germany post a picture of terrorism statistics (that infamous one, recently twittered by acknowledged intellectual KimK herself) in her story, captioning it with ‘Fuck Trump’. What an impressive statement to make.

Now I know what sentiments a majority of the western internet culture seems to have at the moment and it’s ok and understandable. Me too, I can’t say I like the new guy, at least I can’t think of a reason for now – but I’ll have to add that this sentiment doesn’t only apply to the new POTUS but also the so called ‘alternative’, Hillary. I never understood how a country like America, filled with bright, ambitious minds, couldn’t come up with other candidates to fill such an important role – well yes, I did, cash is king etc, but that is a completely other topic which I consider closed for this post right here.

What really annoys me about this whole Trump debate is the choice of points to debate and the choice of words that often goes along with it. Again, I totally get it, I’m not amused, either. Me too, I’m sitting at home, in horror of some of the things he says and plots and is starting to implement. Me too, I have a problem with ‘alternative facts’. But some of the things that some people are debating irritate me almost as much and I think we should stop giving people the feeling that this is how you make a valuable contribution to any kind of discussion.

Calling his wife a hooker – is that really your biggest problem? Her being a rather easy woman at some point in her life, apparently? Me too, I ‘liked’ Michelle, but honestly, there’s a limit to what you can and can not say about a woman, no matter who she is and what she did to get her to the point where she is now, no matter what sort of monster you think her husband is etc. Not respecting those limits in a way just shows what kind of person you are, and I can’t say it’s exactly likable, either.

Talking about his orange face, his tiny hands, his double chin or whatever – really? I mean it might have been funny as long as we all believed he wouldn’t make it but now it’s just so far away from what really is important, it gives me headache every time somebody mentions his looks. It’s like you’re trying to jump in on the current anti-Trump train and can’t think of a more valuable argument. Me too, I laugh when I see a picture of his face made of sausage, but if you’re trying to make a point, mentioning his face certainly isn’t a very powerful way to do so.

Same goes for swearwords describing him, especially coming from people from countries or in positions that aren’t really concerned. Like a German blogger commenting on the whole debate saying ‘Fuck Trump’ and nothing else. If that’s really all you have to say to express your opinion, I think you should just keep it to yourself next time. I know that having strong feelings about the person seemingly everybody is having strong feelings about is cool, but it kind of isn’t if you don’t have your own arguments that support your feelings.

The list goes on and on. And I have to comment on it, because I can’t escape it and I can’t unsee it – all of my feeds, no matter where, are filled with such ‘rationale’. And whenever people deliberately choose to make him the topic, sooner or later it drifts off to arguments I don’t want to discuss – not about him, not about anybody else in the world, really.

Because it’s wrong, because it misses the right/important points. I mean the question is – would all of those things bother you if he was a brilliant candidate, apart from that? Of course not. So why, in all of these debates, can’t we focus on what’s important, at least – even if that again is more or less subjective.

So, to come back to making this a more general conclusion, detached from what is going on in ‘the land of the free’: if you want to impress people, if you want to make a point, if you want to make a valuable contribution to a discussion, you have to give it some meat. I know that having an opinion is important, just as is voicing it – but only if it’s equipped with more than just f*cks and mockery. Isn’t it so much better to listen to somebody with good arguments and interesting thoughts? If you have nothing else to say, nothing new to add, I assure you, you’re better off by just not commenting on it.

Disclaimer: I’m not saying you should stop criticizing, protesting or whatever, but whenever your ‘statements’ aren’t longer than two to three words and nothing but short, derogative comments, you’re not winning the debate, you’re disarming yourself.

Don’t be that person, trust me.

Anna

 

P.s.: Feedback is always appreciated, even if it’s negative – it’s ok if you disagree and I love to hear from you either way – so comment along or follow @girlcasm on Facebook – xoxo

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Never too late

Guys, I’ve been keeping a secret from you and I finally found the time to share it with you. It’s a delicate matter, I know that some of you will be very irritated, so please hear me out, before you go all this is so not Anna on me.

In a surprising turn of fate, I kind of fell in love with a couple of Pandora rings. I know, I know, I know – Yes, me. The ever critical, ever contemptuous Anna. I’m standing in front of you and I’m willing to admit that I might have been wrong on one or the other occasion. I will be giving Pandora rings a chance, from now on – see why:

Firstly, there are these cute flowery rings. If you know my rings, you know that I like to have tiny objects as a ring instead of just plain typical ones. For some inexplicable reason I’m lacking a flower ring, which is definitely something I will change in the future. For this reason, these two have caught my attention straight away as soon as I got to see pictures of Pandora’s new Spring collection. They do look remarkably natural on my fingers, what do you think?

The second pair of rings that got my attention are these two ones – one purple, one green, which is a fav color combo of mine. I absolutely love them and I will definitely want them as soon as they come out. I’m a bit sad that these are the only colors so far, though. I believe Pandora had these in pale pink and white before, but I am really hoping for them to follow up with yellow, blue, orange and flashy pink ones, so I can wear a rainbow around my finger. I’m super excited by the prospect of something which might never happen, which is always a great idea…

The new Spring/ Mother’s Day collection will feature a lot of other pieces, all of them affordable, including new charms, if you or your mother fancy them… This is just a selection of what, to my confusion, immediately caught my eye. The collection will come out in March, which is how long we all will have to wait – including me*. It’s almost sad it won’t be there in time for Valentine’s Day 😉

So here, I said it – I will definitely be getting the green and purple rings. Are you a Pandora girl? Let me know what you’re thinking.

It’s never too late to change your opinion, trust me.

Anna

 

*Because yes, if you were thinking that I have sold my soul for this post, you’re mistaken – being able to show you my fav pieces before they come out in March does not mean I get to keep them so you better believe that this is just me sharing my honest opinion. And now be a good girl, go to Facebook and give @girlcasm a like – xoxo

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They don’t call it balance for nothing

You know how time and  time again you come across a social phenomenon you notice and catch yourself thinking – really? Are there still people falling for this / acting this way? Like girls who cry their eyes out because it took them forever to realize they fell for a f*ckboy. Or people, who don’t really know a single Russian person, think that Russians are evil just because everybody tells them so (personal issue here). Or those smart cookies who think that their bag of nuts is special because it says gluten free. Wow.

I had such a WOW moment the other day, when I came across a magazine promising a new way of dieting on its cover. Like… seriously? You people still need somebody to tell you how to lose weight? Wow. I mean…good for the people who can make a living off making a secret of something logical but you can just ask me the next time and spend the money on something else. (Not candy, ideally.)

You know I’m always here for you if you need any kind of advice, so here’s how it goes:

First of all: dieting sucks. Not having the body you desire sucks. Seeing a skinny bitch eating and not gaining weight sucks. Gaining weight just by looking at things – like I know you’re probably convinced it works with you – sucks. Having cravings 24/7 sucks. The perspective of having to put a shitload of work into changing that sucks immensely and so does not having as much discipline and dedication as everybody else seems to have.

But there’s good news, too: it’s not rocket science. The secret in losing weight is simple – it’s basic calculus. Yep, I know – sounds shitty again, but that’s kind of no surprise, is it? Maths suck and so does shedding weight, so at least there’s kind of a pattern here. Some call it balance, to make it sound less scary, but that’s basically the same thing. And that’s all, (almost) no other secret behind it.

That being said, you can do it without spending money on advice. Without buying e-Books, without buying magazines in the first days of January. All you’ll have to do is count or even just estimate. No need to count calories (or macros, god forbid), except if you’re an annoyingly obsessive person, which I totally understand and will never judge – whatever works for you, go you.

But to come to the point: If you eat like a hamster, you’ll look like a hamster – except if you’ll put an equal amount of effort in working your *ss off. Addition, subtraction, result. And that’s it. The sad truth and nothing but the truth.

Now before somebody starts crying like I know you usually do when I call something by its name: I consider myself a hamster, too, even if I know that some might not. Hamster does not equal to fat, it’s just a symbol. Most of my friends don’t know me without traces of food coating my oral cavity so I do know the struggle. Just as much, I think it’s totally ok to be a hamster, with or without the rat race – this is not a way of me saying that changing your physical appearance is necessary just because you don’t look like straight from a VS runway. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and this is not the point of this rant here.

But it makes me angry to see how people take advantage of somebody’s desire to lose weight, acting like there was a big secret behind it, something we don’t already know. We do know, even if, again, it sucks to know that it is all in our hands, basically.

A couple of days ago I saw one of those ‘I lost so much weight and girls you can, too – the secret is easy – go vegan’ posts and I really had to catch myself for a sec there. Breathe in, breathe out. Yes, it might be true, you might see some results after switching to a vegan diet – but I hope you don’t think that this can’t happen if you stick to a normal, not obsessive, balanced diet including everything, even an occasional slice of pizza or whatever sugary products float your goat, do you? It can and it will, if you keep your balance in mind. Just don’t overdo it. Or if you do, punish yourself, if you absolutely need to. Go crazy at the gym. Go for a nasty run. Hate yourself, blame yourself, whatever. And then get over it.

So I guess what I meant to say is – they don’t call it balance for nothing. That’s all you need to know, basically. Of course there’s food that is better for you than other food might be and there’s foods your body might process better than others  – but you don’t need to spend money on that information, do you? And you don’t need somebody to talk you into a lifestyle that doesn’t come to you naturally, just because it promises to make you lose some weight – and gain a sh*tload of energy or whatever else they offer as additional goodies.

The beauty of a simple balance – or calculus – is that it’s in your hands to work the cranks – now isn’t that good news?

Eat everybody who’s trying to sell you dieting secrets, trust me.

Anna

 

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My Adelboden

When it comes to resolutions for the new year, this one here is my most important one: travel more, see more of the world that you live in. Also: open your eyes to what is close to you. Because the truth is – we all live in such beautiful countries, yet we always want to visit other places, every corner of the world, before we have discovered our country’s own treasures.

I have vowed to get to know my host country better in 2017, which is why I started my year with discovering one of the countless beautiful spots that Switzerland has to offer: Adelboden, in the Canton Bern. Located in the Bernese Oberland, the mountain village is of course a place to go for those who enjoy winter sports, but luckily it also holds a couple of options for those of us who enjoy the mountains for the views, the fresh air and relaxation, above all.

We chose the Parkhotel Bellevue for our stay and we were not disappointed, to the contrary. Greeted by a friendly, cozy lobby, you immediately know you’re off to a great stay: Perfect location for a magical view, as the name suggests, colorful yet chic interior, attentive staff, heavenly cuisine and a spa area, let me tell you… Just the right place for a getaway with a special person – be it a partner, a parent or a friend.

Our trip didn’t go exactly as expected. I had chosen Adelboden in order to force the boy to take extensive semi-hikes with me, discovering the monumental mountainous landscape. Instead, we ended up staying in the hotel most of the time, because it didn’t stop snowing, making it very hard to walk or see that weekend.

I don’t mean to complain, though – the view was beautiful regardless, especially from the hotel’s huge spa area, embedded in an interesting architecture of exposed concrete and wood. I can’t say that we were sad to be more or less forced to enjoy different kinds of steam baths and saunas as well as the outside saline bath – which was my personal favorite, if I really had to name one.

Since this really turned out to be a perfectly intimate trip, I have no more words to lose for this time – I’ll let my photographic impressions speak.

While Parkhotel Bellevue is an old-established hotel, which you can sense from the calm routine around you, it has been renovated a couple of years ago, giving it an effortlessness that is pleasant to experience. Design lovers like myself will be delighted by the way how the modern spirit is perfectly playing with vintage elements of the over 100 years old establishment, all around the hotel and especially in its spacious rooms. I was really sad to leave our room behind, taking one last wistful look out of the huge front window. Yes, it was that hard.

I think it’s important to mention that, being a four star plus hotel, Parkhotel Bellevue has a high standard in everything, not least when it comes to the creativity of its vespertine cuisine and amazing wine that got the boy gushing for a while. The same applies to the way that the staff approaches and treats you – always there, always attentive but never noticeable. I can’t remember the last time I have felt so easy in a place equally pretentious.

The boy and I have decided to come back some time in Spring or Fall, in order to spend some more days breathing the fresh air of the mountains during longer walks than were possible this time – and we already know which hotel we will come back to. Ten out of ten, would recommend.

Have you already been to Adelboden? Let me know.

The Parkhotel Bellevue is an excellent choice, trust me.

Anna

 

P.s.: Tune in on Snapchat for some real talk, next time – on travels and other topics.

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Turn-off

I’ve been having inner rants about a recent group project at uni for a while now and it’s about time I draw a general conclusion from my experience – what do you think?

Just to give you a quick overview of where I’m coming from before I get to the juicy part: I’m currently working on a project with three male partners – one of which is working really hard for our common cause, using his brain, giving valuable input, showing up on time etc. The other two however keep it to the absolute minimum, low budget performance, sprinkled with excuses nobody has time for. In general, they are both nice and all, but there’s just something I feel like every man should be told:

Not doing what you said you would do is so unattractive in a man. Being indecisive is unattractive. Not using your f*cking brain is unattractive. Not doing an effort is unattractive. Ignorance is unattractive, just as is laziness. Not taking the lead is so so unattractive. And excuses? F*cking stop the excuses – I’m not your resolution.

These things might be unattractive in women as well, but they are an absolute turn-off in a man, if you ask me – no matter what kind of relationship you have with that person, personal or professional. You can be turned-off by the indecency of a coworker as well, right? To me, a man just becomes immensely unattractive if I notice a pattern of him not keeping to his word or being indifferent to me taking the lead. You’re a man, after all – at least act the part.

I know it’s difficult to say something about attractive and unattractive – there are countless men out there who probably find me unattractive for the length (haha) of my legs, the shape of my nose or just generally the way that I breathe – but think of attraction in the general sense of respect here.

On this occasion, please spare me all the witty remarks on how women are asking for emancipation all the time and how comments on qualities in a man are opposed to that – I do not work on becoming a confident woman so that we can switch sexual organs and live happily ever after. If a woman is confident enough to challenge, it doesn’t mean that everybody else can just sit back and relax. I’m not asking to become the bearer of balls, I’m fine to work what I was given, thank you.

You know, feelings and all, weaknesses – they are all good and it sure is cute to see some of them in a man sometimes, as a little present, a manifestation of trust or whatever. But as soon as weakness becomes his first, second and last name, things have gotten out of hand. Call 911 or just run if you can. While this is possible in a personal relationship, sadly, oftentimes you’re left with having to deal with it in all other kinds of interactions with people…

And then also, there’s a difference between having weak spots and just plainly not sticking to ones word – because having the courage or determination to state something, promise something and really sticking to it, that’s immensely attractive slash respectable.

In every context and in contact with everybody, really. What makes you a valuable partner in a relationship, to a certain extent makes you a decent human being in general. It doesn’t matter if it’s with somebody you know or a complete stranger. If you think you’re man enough in front of your significant other or whoever you’re trying to impress, but can’t be a decent, dependable human being in other situations, like work or just any kind of social interaction, then you’re still a wimp. And how unattractive that is…

To keep it simple: the most attractive thing a man can do, is exactly what he says he’s going to do – trust me.

Anna

 

P.s.: Why don’t you support my rants and go hit that like button on Facebook? I’d love love love for this little project here to grow – xoxo

 

Picture via girlboss

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